A mother of one and a medical student, Kelsey Baker took to her social media platform to share one of the most emotional and heart-wrecking posts on emotional abuse. This has so far attracted different opinions and comments from enthusiasts.
The young mother got on her Facebook timeline to post a very detailed and lengthy message what looks like a prose about an emotional abuse she is presently going through in her relationship, this powerful message has since touched the heart of her Facebookers and to those who came across the shared post.
“Maybe he doesn’t hit you, but he makes you apologize for getting upset after something he did to hurt you.
Maybe he doesn’t hit you, but you have to walk on eggshells every day to ensure he is satisfied enough to remain calm and happy.
Maybe he doesn’t hit you, but he steals your sense of comfort and security leaving you paranoid and “crazy”.
Y’all….. this is so serious.
So what he brought you flowers on Tuesday and made you feel like a princess. Yet caused you to cry yourself to sleep on Wednesday over a “suspicious” guy liking your picture. Maybe he bought you earrings and made you feel so secure on Friday, but told you Saturday night he’s going to sleep with someone else all because you decided to stand up for yourself for once. Maybe he bought you tickets to the John Langston concert and made you feel so beautiful as you curled your hair and put on your jean skirt before you left. Just to crack your phone on the concrete and make you sit on the sidewalk ugly crying because he was jealous of a guy who stood near you at the concert. Maybe you did everything right but he still wants to victimize himself just so he doesn’t have to put in effort to right his wrongs.
This is not okay. And you are not at fault.
Do not apologize for his mistakes. Do not let him tear you apart to build himself higher. You are worthy of love and happiness and respect.
Please don’t wait for him to change as he carelessly rips apart your soul and everything that is you. Please don’t tell yourself it’s okay or ever allow yourself to get used to it.
He is broken. Do not let him break you.
You guys… the amount of love and support arising from this post is amazing. Thank you so much for all your kind words, it means much more than you know. Please feel welcome to message me if you need absolutely anything. No one should hurt in solitude.
Also – I am very aware that men go through these same experiences just as much as, if not more than women. This post was simply a fraction of my personal story shared in a moment of vulnerability.
God Bless all of you beautiful people💙”
Kelsey Baker who is a mother of one and a nurse appeared to be in an abusive relationship and the way she has been dealing with this emotional abuse is taking to her Facebook timeline often to write her feelings out as a means of therapy, her post on October 3 has since got 52k like, 8.5k comments and 87, 801 shares on Facebook. One commenter who could relate the status of his relationship to that of Kelsey Baker shared a comment about how abusive he was toward a girlfriend who loved him like no one. Read below:
“Vickie Kim Carden –This reminds me of when I was married the first time after 5 years my brotherErskin Searsrescued me and my daughter he moved us in with him, i eventually reconnect with an old friend and now I can honestly say I have married my best friend and soulmate going on 28 years now,it took a while to get adjusted to someone treating me with respect and telling me he loves me and meaning it and he literally lives to make me happy, don’t know where I would be if our lives hadn’t crossed again.”
Emotional abuse is often confused with some expressions towards loved ones, it is not emotionally abusive to yell at a loved one, it is also not emotionally abusive to argue with your partner but it is emotionally abusive to want to control someone to make yourself feel better or bully someone into submitting to your selfish interest.
A quote from Andrea Mathews from her article on www.psychologytoday.com reads:
Emotional abuse is an attempt to control, in just the same way that physical abuse is an attempt to control another person. The only difference is that the emotional abuser does not use physical hitting, kicking, pinching, grabbing, pushing, or other physical forms of harm. Rather the perpetrator of emotional abuse uses emotion as his/her weapon of choice.